If you are like most Nerw Yorkers, the first month of TTC is a little shocking. You had probably been living over 20 years with the understanding that if you didn't take birth control pills or use condoms, you were going to get preganant. So yes, it's a little bit of a shock when that doesn't happen.
By month 3 you are starting to wonder if there is a real issue, but you know you are probably jumping the gun.
By month 6 you have definitely looked it up on the internet and know that up to 12 months of "trying" is normal, but the thought is hard to shake:
I didn't realize it would take this long to get pregnant!
By month 12 you will be asking yourself why you ever bothered taking the pill in the first place. It's a joke, but not really.
When it starts to take longer than 12 months, the thoughts can get real dark, real quick.
We are here to throw you a line.
"Why am I not getting preganant?" is one of the most common questions we are asked at City Acupuncture. Before you allow yourself to slip into a real rut, consider the following three things - these are the most common causes of infertility (by the way I hate that term and will write extensively on why we should change it):
1. You Are Not Doing It Right.
Or at the very least you are not doing it at the right time. The strange fact is that you can only get pregnant for a 2 -4 day window in the middle of your cycle when you ovulate. Now in fairness, sperm can live about 4 - 5 days in a woman's body, so you have a little more time than that. Still, you have at most an 8 day window of time that you can get pregnant in any given menstrual cycle.
If your cycle is fairly regular (meaning it doesn't change more than a day or two in length from cycle to cycle) then look for the thin, stretchy, clear discharge somewhere close to the middle of your cycle. That is the best indicator that you are ovulating, and it is time to get busy.
A lot of women track their cycles so they can know in advance when ovulation is happening. This is a good idea on paper, but it very easily leads to a super-duper unhealthy obsession with tracking every single thing that happens. Take that project on with care.
FUN FACT: When everything is working properly, you still only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant. That's 1-in-5.
(Probably for the best that they don't mention that in high school)
2. Your Cycle is Messed Up.
This is one of the most common causes of infertility. As previously discussed, you need to ovulate in order to get pregnant, and you need sperm in the right place when ovulation happens to maximize your chances. When your cycle is not regular, it gets very hard to predict when you are ovulationg (or even *if* you are ovulating). That leaves you depending on the cervical mucous (or worse those ghastly ovulation predictor kits) to tell you when you will ovulate and so your chances are reduced.
I lumped these together because ultimately they are both hormonal imbalances that lead to irregular menstrual cycles. Both are "curable," and people with either of these disorders are still considered very likely to conceive.
Keep in mind this is just a short introduction. Please keep an eye out for much more on the topic of fertility. If you are still left wondering why am I not getting pregnant, just use the button above to ASK US!!